Breakups are never easy. They are usually messy and emotionally overwhelming. It doesn’t matter what caused the breakup to happen. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who they are extremely painful. What matters is how to stop that pain.
But more often than not, we make things even harder on ourselves by holding on to the past and reliving it day after day. That’s why there are some ways that can help you heal more easily after a breakup and allow you to move on faster.
#1. Go One Step at a Time
Of course, it will take some time to acknowledge what actually happened and to process it all. There will be days you will feel depressed and unwilling to get out of bad. You will wish everybody could leave you alone and let you drown your sorrows in a box of ice cream.
But never let those days turn into weeks. No matter how hard and how helpless things might seem, it’s important that you move. Get up, dress up and do anything you have to or want to that day. The worst thing you can do is to do nothing at all.
#2. Don’t Stay in Touch
Don’t call, don’t text, don’t Snapchat, don’t engage in any contact whatsoever. There is no use pretending you are friends when your feelings are way stronger. It would be preferable to avoid checking their social media accounts, too.
While reaching out to your ex might seem like a good idea and you might feel better when you hear their voice, your good feeling will be just short-term. It will only make more damage when you realize that no matter how many times you hear from them, nothing has changed, will change, and that things are inevitably over.
So don’t contact them, especially if they initiated the breakup. Let them come to you if they feel like they made a mistake. It’s not up to you to make any moves. All in all, the best thing you can do is admit to yourself that things were broken beyond repair and that there was a reason for a breakup.
#3. Try to de-Stress
This is very important because breakups inevitably bring stress into the equation and make your healing process slow and more painful. That’s why you need to find something that will keep your mind off of things and help you relax. It can be anything depending on your preferences.
You can sweat it out by running or pay the nearest gym a visit. Spoil yourself and go for the weekend to a spa resort. You can make a movie night for yourself or invite some friends over and lose yourself for a moment in the make-believe world of the cinema or combine everything. Just let your imagination run wild and seek new ways to pamper yourself. There is no time you will need it more than you do now.
#4. Realize that You are not Alone in All of this
Even though your pain is just yours to handle and that makes you feel so alone in all of it, you have to take a better look. You have your people. You have an entire support system made by your friends and family. They are the ones who are there for you no matter what. They are always on your side and they will do anything to make you feel better. Spending time with them will be highly beneficial for you and you will feel instantly better surrounded by all that love.
#5. Don’t Try to Prevent Yourself from Thinking about Him
The more you force yourself to try to stop thinking about him, the harder it will be. You will only end up recalling all the memories you shared together and inevitably make yourself feel worse. So let the memories in when they come. Let it hurt and let it heal. What you had was real. Pain is inevitable and part of the process. It will help you move on.
#6. It’s Time You do “You”
It’s time to find that self-love you forgot all about. At last, the time has come to think about you and your own needs and to put yourself first for a change. So concentrate on improving your life from the inside out. Find new and interesting things to do. Be adventurous. Travel. Dream. Discover. Do whatever makes you feel good and whatever your heart desires. You are the one in charge of your own happiness and it’s time you created it on your own terms.